This is not your typical Sexual Diary of various women winging this is a fully rounded investigative collation from both parties who are finding their once thriving sex lives changing, depleting or simply disappearing. 98 couples from 20 year old to 70+ spent 6-9 months writing diaries on everything from lost libidos and sexual blackmail to arthritis and prostate restrictions.
Only a small part if set out in diary format and the italics highlight the volunteers comments so theyre easy to locate and dip into.
The book exudes honesty, fairness and a non judgmental humour funny (chapters like Laundry Gets You Laid are priceless) highlights Arndts plethora of knowledge as a consummate sex therapist and observationist.
The structure and collation of this manual is refreshing because its shows both sides of each sexual partnership; its not all about women feeling short changed, there are some genuinely touching diary entries from their men who have been left adrift for various reasons.
Julian [works and] runs the house, apart from ironing because he doesnt do a good enough job. She knows he works very hard to try to make sure everything is running smoothly, in the hope she may want sex sometimes I think Im such a bitch . . . . I love him to bits. He really deserves a much nicer person than me
He [Julian] admits he feels pissed off and a failure when he cant get the sexual urge off his back. Yet occasionally he strikes gold; Its as if shes got these different personalities. If you get the sexy one its just great . page 175-6
Strongly recommended to anyone who wants to avoid the sexual pitfalls or climb out of one theyve already fallen into.
Author: Bettina Arndt .
Review; N J Soliar